COMMUNICATION… AN ART
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Translation: Régine Paradis
“We have to admit that communication is imperfect.
There is no recipe to remedy this, other than awareness on both sides
of this difficulty and the will to overcome it.” – Albert Jacquard1
A few months ago, during a training course on communication, I learned some wonderful things. It sparked an interest in me to delve deeper into the subject. I’d like to briefly share my discovery with you.
Albert Jacquard’s words encourage us to take up the challenge of communication: to make ourselves understood by others and to understand others in return, given that communication is imperfect. It’s a responsibility that’s unique to each and every one of us.
But what exactly is communication?
Communication is a behavior that serves to be in relationship (to make common, to be connected), i.e. to be in a relationship of reciprocal influence: to influence and be influenced.2 As soon as there’s a relationship between two or more people, there’s obviously influence, because you can’t avoid influencing, even with silence, which is, among other things, non-verbal communication.
When two people communicate, the relationship is built on the ability of each to adjust to the other. It’s the quality of this feedback that determines whether the relationship is harmonious, conflictual or blocked.
“It is the quality of verbal and non-verbal communication that will nurture love, amplify dreams, and give desires their power and fullness.“3 – Jacques Salomé
Communication is based on our responsibility to act responsibly. Our responsibility is to know and love ourselves as the primary cause of our actions, and to accept the consequences.
“And to give love to those close to us, or those far from us, we first have to know how to love ourselves, to be in love with ourselves, to understand ourselves, to know ourselves, to have compassion for ourselves. We need to love ourselves before loving others, how can we give love to others if we don’t have it for ourselves. We can’t give what we don’t possess. – Rael4
Recognizing that communication is perfectible, it thus becomes an art in the sense of having the ability to use appropriate manners to come to be understood and to understand the other in return. This art requires awareness of ourselves, of others, and of the challenge of establishing a relationship with each person we meet that we hope will be satisfying.
There’s no recipe for imperfect communication. We are inclined to be clumsy, and necessarily to learn from our mistakes.
In the era of the Internet and social networks, like a nervous system, communication is a fantastic tool that links every human being on the planet, to the point where it sometimes invades our lives. Communication is therefore perfectible. If we fail to be discerning, we fail every time.
“Failure for lack of skill is no disgrace.“–George Sand
In this way, the quality of our communication will become an art, because it will be determined not by the way we express things, but by the way they are understood.
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what’s not being said.” – Peter Drucker.
Quite an art, isn’t it?
Columnist for the Raelian Movement
1Jacquard A. : Petite philosophie à l’usage des non-philosophes, Éditions Québec-Livres, 1997, p. 17 (in French only)
2Portelance C. : (1994) La communication authentique, Édition du CRAM (in French only)
3Salomé J. : (1998) https://www.dicocitations.com/citation_auteur_ajout/48688.php (in French only)
4Rael: The Maitreya, Extracts from his Teachings – Published by La Fondation Raélienne, 2003, p. 18